Excursion to the locking life - the pros and cons of baby ringing

In general, you can write and tell about slingsvery much and for a long time, personally I am ready to compose this wonderful invention of mankind. I have been preparing articles on the topic of slings for several months, and when they seemed to be ready for me, I suddenly remembered something “very important” that, well, I need to tell more, so they finished writing and finishing writing endlessly. And if Olezh hadn’t stopped me, I’m sure I would have remembered a lot of useful things on this topic, because I probably forgot something :) This is the first of three articles about slings, so everything that does not fit here will be explained in the following.

It so happened that an unusual baby came to us,due to certain circumstances, quite tame. He can spend quite a bit of time without his mother. And in the first months I was ready to sit on my hands around the clock. And I understood how important it is for him to be near his mother all the time, to feel her warmth, heartbeat, breath and to know that you are safe.

But in fact, it is not only importantkids, like our Egor, but in general, all newborns and small children. Probably, many will have questions, but why accustom the child to the hands, because he will get used, spoiled and then all the nerves will fade. You can talk and argue about this aspect for a very long time. Oleg and I chose this path and generally try to adhere to the principles of Natural Parenthood as much as possible (and it includes such horrors as partnership childbirth, sleeping together with the baby, carrying on hands, incessant hugging, long breastfeeding, and at the request of the child , deepening the issue of vaccination, minimizing, as far as possible, medications, hardening, planting and many other things that may seem to some, well, not quite normal and reasonable). But personally, we think that this is more correct, given that we have been raised and brought up in a completely different way, and we, now clearing up the results of this on ourselves, feel that this was not very good.

The content of the article

Why is it important to carry a child in your arms

We are with Oleg, as supporters of the EP (naturalparenthood) we believe that the baby should be held and carried as often as possible on the handles so that it can feel your warmth, hear (or feel) the beating of your heart, see you close, feel your acquaintance, smell it, could touch and study at any moment your face, ears, hair, and in our unusual case - also attach a handle to your chest to feel the vibrations when we talk.

Mom's calm and cozy under the wing

Mom's calm and cozy under the wing

With mom and dad quiet and comfortable

With mom and dad quiet and comfortable

After all, the little man is born this waydefenseless to this world and the first few months (and in fact, the first year), very, well, just really needs to feel that the closest, most beloved, most needed person is mom (and dad too!) always nearby, it always helps, because the kid does not understand at all what is happening to him. He is only learning to recognize himself in this world, and it is so important that in this difficult day of his period he does not feel abandoned.

Dad is real too

Dad, we also have a real "slingopapa"

Long carrying on the hands (and easier in the sling),as well as breastfeeding, it helps to establish the most significant, inexplicable connection between mother and child. This is especially important for premature babies, or special babies, or those whom the mothers did not manage to give birth to correctly (those who were Caesaric, or from whom the babies were taken away for a long time immediately after the birth and were kept separately with the mothers).

And you know that babies have no feelingstime, they do not know that what is happening now will ever end, that it is temporary. They think that now, as he is now, it will always be now. Accordingly, when the mother is not around, and the baby begins to cry and suffer from this, he does not know that she may soon return to him - he thinks that now it will be disastrously bad and scary forever!

It’s very cool to be with mom

It’s very cool to be with mom

And most importantly: You know that human babies are born so unsuitable for life, that the first months, in fact, in fact, are not entirely human. If the baby was in the mother’s womb before its full maturity, as, for example, in most animals, the woman simply could not give birth to him, he would be too big. Therefore, nature has invented such a cunning way - the birth of a child before he finally matured. But this means that mummy should carry the remaining time of her cub on the arms, like a kangaroo mother wearing her kids in her bag.

Mom's under the wing

Mom's under the wing

What is useful to wear children in a sling

Ta-dam! And now, finally, we approached the topic of undeniable advantages of wearing in a sling for small, and not quite small, children. I just make a reservation at once that I mean only correct, physiological and ergonomic carrying slings, which in no way do not harm the little man. About what the wrong things for carrying children are sold in most stores, I will tell in the next article.

And once again I will say that first of all it appliesto children about one year old and special children. Well, in general, it is better to listen to your child and not to do anything against his will, but not to deprive him of what he really wants (and even is necessary because of his age or characteristics).

Psychological and emotional development of children

So, how is it good to wear the baby in a special carrying sling?

First of all, it's very, very cool.affects the psycho-emotional development of the little one. Well, first of all, baby, being in your sling (as a matter of fact, on the handles), as much time as he needs, does not get a psychological trauma, snorting in the crib or stroller, calling for her mother. On the handles (= in a sling) he feels your warmth and heartbeat, realizes that he is safe, and he is so much calmer. In addition to these seemingly obvious advantages, there are many undeniable (for me) advantages.

First, seen by almost all moms,using these amazing devices, that slingo children cry much less often than wheelchair users. Perhaps this is just because he and his mom are much more comfortable, calmer, and therefore there is no need to shout.

It's interesting and fun with mom

With my mother it is interesting and fun 9 in a backpack from Kati Karaush)

Secondly, adaptation to the unfamiliar and frighteningto the surrounding world in this way occurs gradually and from the most comfortable place for the baby - sitting at the mother’s bosom, where it is calm and warm, you can stare around and not feel alone.

Thirdly, such slingo residents are fasterpsycho-emotional development occurs, because the review is increased: they look at everything from the height of an adult and see what is simply impossible to see from the wheelchair, which means that they receive much more visual information, which, by the way, they can dose themselves if the sling is correct, i.e. if in the first months of life the mother wears the baby face to himself and at any moment he can hide himself in the mother and “hide” from everyone in her warmth and smell.

If I'm scared, I'm hiding in my mother

If I'm scared, I'm hiding in my mother

It seems to us that it is very useful for a child.from childhood to participate in adult affairs of parents, whether it be household chores, trips and meetings, work or hobbies. When a baby is quite small, he can simply be involved in the process by observing how parents do it, learning and absorbing what they see. And then, when he becomes older, as far as possible, it's great when he starts to connect to the process and help. It develops much more than artificial games for development. Although I do not claim that they are not needed. Just one does not cancel the other. But I was distracted. :)

From mother's height you can see better

From my mom's height, you can see better (in Kati Karaush’s backpack)

Little boy involved in my mother's affairs

Little boy involved in my mother's affairs

And one more important point is the formationproper attachment in children. Do not be afraid to accustom the child to the hands, do not worry that he will get used and then "sit" on your head. There is such a theory (and I see its confirmation in all (!) Familiar slingbags) that if at a very early age a child receives enough parental warmth, care and feelings of security, if he has the correct attachment to parents, then he, having reached a certain age (much earlier than you think), becomes very independent and independent (and, with the right behavior of the parents, such children have excellent trusting relationships with them, he respects them from rushes to them as to authorities). Connoisseurs, correct me if I somehow crookedly outlined the essence of Newfeld's idea.

It’s very cool to be with mom

It’s very cool to be with mom

Dear slingomas and their slingo residents / flaxes

Dear slingomas and their slingo residents / flaxes

Physiological development babes

The correct sling repeats the position "on the handles"and makes it possible to carry the baby in the most physiological position for him. And this, about a miracle (!) Is not lying on a flat or, God forbid, a solid surface with handles "at the seams", but being in a slightly bent position, because the spine of a newborn has just such a shape, and not straight, and it will straighten gradually. Correctly (!) Put on the correct (!) Sling takes this form, which means that the baby’s spine will develop as it should.

And, by the way, in the first months of life forthe infant is not so important freedom during sleep, it is more comfortable for him to be a little (!) constrained in movement and to be in a close space, as it was before being born during the last months of his stay in the womb. But something I was distracted again :)

Many little babies have thisnuisance like hip dysplasia. And many advanced, not Soviet orthopedists and pediatricians themselves advise such children to wear in the correct slings in order to cope with this trouble. And according to reviews of a huge number of mothers, I can tell you, it works! It seems that even some special studies have been conducted on this subject, and this has already been scientifically proven, but I will not argue, I have not seen these results. But I know for sure: the correct sling is the easiest way to prevent this very dysplasia. The main thing is that the baby sitting vertically in a sling is in the so-called M-position - so that the ass always sags, i.e. was below the knees.

Ass clearly below the knees

Ass clearly below the knees

When you wear your child in a sling, and activelymove, you make a lot of movements, bend down, crouch, reach for something. And the kid, trying to keep the former position of his body, moves in a certain way behind you and strains various muscles, thereby training them. Well, of course, in this way, the sense of balance and the vestibular apparatus of a little man develop very well.

Try so bend over with your mother!

Try so bend over with your mother!

And the overwhelming number of newbornsThere is such a nasty thing as colic. This is when a little man well, his stomach hurts very much and at the same time no medicine helps and it is almost impossible to calm down the inconsolable baby. And again, having gone through this difficult stage myself, and reading / listening to the stories of very many other young parents, I can tell you: in this matter, a sling is just a salvation! I don’t know what exactly works so efficiently, or whether the baby’s tummy is in direct contact with the mother, heats up from it, and therefore it doesn’t hurt so much, or because the mother, stepping around the room, rotates systematically and thus cradles and just soothes an anxious baby, either because it is always easier for the mother to handle all the hardships on the hands of the mother, but thanks to the sling it becomes real to experience this difficult period for everyone. (Just do not be scared, there are happy kids and with them no less happy parents, whom this trouble generally takes aside).

When something hurts, it's much better for mom on the handles

When something hurts, it's much better for mom on the handles

When something hurts, it's much better for mom on the handles

When something hurts, it's much better for mom on the handles

There are kids who are very difficult to rock for sleep andhave a long, long swing. You understand that in a sling it is much easier to do, and your hands are not so tired (because the main load is distributed on the back), and many children are cut down simply by the way the mother sways when walking, that is, there is no need to specifically rock.

You stand, swing and watch your favorite movies, and the baby is sleeping

You stand, swing and watch your favorite movies, and the baby is sleeping

We ride on a dream in nature

We ride on a dream in nature

Mom is sleeping in her sling, and baby is in her :)

Mom is sleeping in her sling, and baby is in her :)

Oh, only I will make a reservation, this is notIt means that the baby should be tied to itself and, without untie it, walk with it day and night! Of course, he very often needs to be let out in the open voyage (or just lie on his tummy, looking at lying toys, or crawl, sit, play, stand up, if he already knows how). But when he needs it, when he asks for a pen, take it, touch it and continue to do its business already with the baby “in the bosom”.

How sling helps mom / what he allows to do

Freedom hands!

Well, first of all, I will say a trivial slingfrees mom hands! And it is such a blessing! Of course, with the tied baby in front you can’t do everything as quickly as without him. But all the same, it is better than sitting and not moving at all, holding a llyka on the handles, or than doing your own business, but under the deafening cries of your own child, who is locked up in a crib. At least, household chores, although now they are being done more slowly, but they still do not stand still.

And mom manages to do her work, and the baby is calm

And mom manages to do her work, and the baby is calm

And mom manages to do her work, and the baby is calm

And mom manages to do her work, and the baby is calm

Doing household chores together is more fun :)

Do your homework together more fun :)

Freedom of hands

Freedom of hands

This is the only way I manage to calmly cut my nails on a small leg.

This is the only way I manage to calmly cut my nails on a small leg.

And some particularly cool moms manage more andwork with the baby in a sling (and at the computer, and so). I am, unfortunately, not one of them. I can justify myself by saying that for the first few months Egorush conspired to lie only, not sit in a sling, and only to sleep, during the day because of the tone and generally because of all our neurological pieces, he curved himself and, one might say, jumped out of the sling. But this is a separate difficult story, we coped with it over time :)

Type work - I write an article with one hand

Type work - I write an article with one hand

Papa Oleg could continue to work with Egor in the sling

Papa Oleg could continue to work with Egor in the sling

With slin - and the sea knee-deep!

Not all public places are adapted.for baby (and not baby too) strollers, and some do not suggest that you can manage to come with a small baby, so most mothers simply can be said locked up in captivity at home and sit there with the baby until he learns on his own confidently walk, and this lasts more than a year! And if it comes to that, then it is much easier to go to some places with a baby, who mostly sleeps peacefully in a sling, than with an already grown up baby who does not stand still and who can run away from you somewhere, who needs to touch everything, study everything, ask about everything, etc.

We are going to the doctors with a sling - this is much more convenient (although Yegor is sitting on this photo is not quite right)

We go to the doctors with a sling - it is much more convenient (although Yegor is not sitting on this photo quite correctly)

Mom with a baby in a sling is much more active, andmost importantly, mobile than mom with a stroller. There are still women who do not know how to drive a car, I am one of those too. And how can a mother use public transport if she is with a stroller? Neither the bus nor the subway with her just physically climb is unrealistic. And so - I put the child in a sling, and if you are not afraid that the baby will pick up some other infection in a public place (for example, I became very afraid of it after the hospital, right before paranoia), then you can be said to be open all the way, all the doors. You can go anywhere and on anything.

About trips anywhere, there is a separate slingbow and in terms of travel. No, there are heroes who take carriages with them to trips to other cities and countries, but this is horror, how uncomfortable! But very often it happens that already running baby is tired and asks for pens. I tried to hold the little girl 15 kg on the handles; this is not a task for the faint of heart. And once this little girl was so tired on a walk that she fell asleep literally on the go. I'm not joking, she walked, stumbling, and slept. Mom had to take her hands and carry it to her house. And how was my sling useful to her then!

We explore with my mother the unknown

We explore with my mother the unknown

Or is it a pram?

I have experience using a stroller (not yetI picked up the ideal carrier for us with Yegor, synul very reluctantly agreed to move along the street in other slings), so, I can tell you, except for large hypermarkets, the entrance to other stores / pharmacies / mail was closed to me. I just didn’t fit in with this machine on wheels anywhere, didn’t squeeze through doors, interfered with everything, couldn’t walk on food rows.

What is more convenient with a stroller or a sling? :)

What is more convenient with a stroller or a sling? :)

Well, here's how, for example, you will walk with a stroller

Well, here's how, for example, you will walk with a stroller

And also, my then non-run-out boy, everythingtime strove to jump out of the stroller, weaving over her side. However, he was not sitting yet (Yegor sat very late, only a year), so I was scared to use the seated unit of the stroller, we rode in the cradle. And at that very time I suffered so much that I cannot walk in our beloved forest! Because with a stroller there just does not go. And as soon as Egorush again agreed to sit in the sling, I was happy! All roads became open to us again, where the wheel of any wheelchair all-terrain vehicle would not pass.

In the woods in winter it is more convenient to walk without a stroller

In the woods in winter it is more convenient to walk without a stroller

I like to walk in the woods, but I can't go there with a carriage

I like to walk in the woods, but I can't go there with a carriage

How often do I see the same picture on the street- an unhappy baby in a stroller and an unhappy mom desperately moving this stroller in different directions. And how it would be easier - I took the baby out of the stroller, pressed it to me in a sling, he would immediately calm down and fall asleep.

Well, a little pebble for fans of progress andthose who really want to protect the stroller. Personally, I always love to look back and see how it was customary to do various things many hundreds of years ago. Because, it seems to me, over time we, chasing progress, lose and forget something very important, natural and most correct. You knew, for example, that the very praised cradles for the little ones appeared only at the end of the 19th century, that is, not too long ago. And at first they used them very rarely and not all. It just now seems incredible to have a child and at the same time not to have in the arsenal several different means of transporting this little man, and before that there was no question how to move with the baby - they were wearing on themselves, always! From time immemorial, mothers wore babies on themselves.

But still, to be completely honest,I confess that we already have as many as two wheelchairs, one of which we almost never used (only last summer, when Yeerush had a period of complete abandonment of the sling (yes, yes, it happens)), and the second is used periodically now, rather, as a cart, when on the way from the walk we think to go to the store and then don’t want to carry a very heavy boy and a full backpack with groceries. And in general, according to my observations, many already grown up brooders themselves do not mind riding, sit in other carriages or beg their parents in the store, but they have already managed to get mother's warmth and love in full, become independent (much more independent, than their peers wheelchairs) and perceive this product of human progress rather as an attraction and entertainment.

One jacket for two

If you wear a baby in a winter sling underwearing a slingokurt, you do not need to wear clothes for him, because He is warm with his mother’s warmth (yes, and his mother too). At the same time, if the mother comes into the store or another room, it is enough for her to simply unfasten the jacket, and the baby would not sweat as he would sweat if he was lying / sitting in his winter suit in a wheelchair.

One jacket for two

One jacket for two

Mom ha bosom so warm and sleepy

Mom ha bosom so warm and sleepy

Not to buy a whole slinger,Some mothers acquire special inserts for the sling, which are tricky to attach to regular jackets, as if increasing them so that the baby can fit in there, and turn them into a slingo jacket in this way. And in the fall, you can use a slingonkapku, instead of slingokutki (although there are also demi-season slingokurtki, but in my opinion, slingonokidk more convenient).

Neither rain, nor wind, nor cold is terrible in the slipboard.

Neither rain, nor wind, nor cold is terrible in the slipboard.

Great helper in breastfeeding

Generally, the art of HB (breastfeeding) -This is a separate big difficult story, about which you can also (and should!) speak in detail. But the article is not about that. It’s just that, it would seem, the most natural and simple process, well, these or other difficulties often arise, especially if the mother is frightened that she has “little milk”. And it is here that our hero comes to the rescue - any correct sling!

Why does he help? Because in order to produce enough milk, it is necessary that there be as much bodily contact as possible between the baby and the mother. And the success of HB depends on how often the mask is applied to the chest (the more often, the better). In a baby sling, around the clock free access to his delicious “happiness,” he eats when he wants, at any time and in any place, and as much as he wants, without interfering with his mother’s work and without tearing her hands off.

You can breastfeed in a sling even on the go

You can breastfeed in a sling even on the go

Anyway, proper milk productionoccurs due to the coordinated work of certain hormones (prolactin and oxytocin). Oxytocin is a hormone of pleasure and joy, it is often produced when mother looks at her favorite treasure, when she takes it on her hands, kisses, etc. And if a mother often carries her child in her arms (= in a sling), which means she often sees and hugs her baby, and most importantly, if she experiences positive emotions from her, she always produces the same hormone of joy that stimulates the outflow milk

Breastfeeding in a sling is very convenient.

Breastfeeding in a sling is very convenient.

If you hesitate, you can hide under a light scarf

If you hesitate, you can hide under a light scarf

Cons wearing in a sling

Lest you think I'm fanatical hereI urge everyone to pick up their strollers and urgently wind children forever in slings, I will tell you about the inconveniences that this wonderful device I personally caused.

  • in summer it can be hot if it is +30 outside, and if your sling is too dense, windproof and does not contain silk / linen / hemp
  • from the long wearing of an already grown up boy, I personally already begin to hurt my back (but my sonny still doesn’t walk and it would be even more difficult to carry him in my arms)
  • not with all the sleeping babies in a sling, it is possible to stoop so that he does not wake up; difficult to put on shoes and lace up, difficult to lift something if something falls
  • in the same way, not all sleeping children in a sling can be seated; for some reason, many of them wake up immediately; because of this it can be difficult in transport
  • closer to a year some babies start like thisa chip - they fall asleep in a sling, but after half an hour they start to wake up (either something flows, or just want to change the posture) and if they are not laid out on a smoother surface, I can finally wake up and make trouble for a long time, and if you spread them - sleep farther on (but not all)
  • if the baby is attached to the front, although mom and svoboda's hands, but still not everything is comfortable to do with them, you are not up to everything
  • limited review, do not always see what you are attacking and what is under your feet
  • in the winter, you can slip and fall along with the baby (but this is solved by using special tools on the shoes - ice-shoes or correct shoes with non-slip soles)

With all of the above, I remain true to this.unique invention of mankind. For me, all these disadvantages are negligible compared to the advantages that me and my son are given to baby wear.

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