States of happiness and insights VS golden cage

In the last post I wrote about the usual with the mind cycling coil. But at such moments states are caught. Automatically. And without effort. Well, except for the force spent on pedaling. In essence, the state of happiness is caught, or rather, a certain mood that can be attributed to happy moments. As you know, there are no happy years, there are only happy days diluted by various difficulties. Therefore, such moments are quite valuable, since they cannot be permanent and occupy 100% of all life.

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States of happiness

How are the states caught? You can catch them in travels, you can catch them accidentally, as in the case of my bike rider, you can look at a child and be touched by his actions, you can help someone, participate in charity ... And things are actually bought too to become a little bit happier. Just do not convince me that the whole world is real pragmatists and the majority buys something for the sake of functionality. Such units. But let's not now about the "correctness" of the way, we are all consumers in the long run. Someone is very selective, someone accepts any way of catching the state of happiness. So to say, who is closer. The main thing is to be able to relax at a certain moment and turn your eyes inward, because we do not always know how to track our emotions, so we may not even understand what we really feel.

Why do we need states? Hmm, in general, everything is a state. And any one way or another strives for happiness in his understanding. Life is usually lived for this. First of all, the state of happiness gives inspiration, fills with strength, brings ideas. Makes you continue to live. The less happiness in a person’s life (and by happiness, I mean overall satisfaction), the lower the quality of life, and the more likely that a particular person is further from his present path. True, there is Buddhism with its pumping up the skill of being happy in spite of any living conditions, and indeed with a departure from positive-negative emotions to neutrality and liberation. But again, this is not about that.

It may be easier for someone to get this fromusing a pill or a bottle of wine, but personally these methods are not close to me. Therefore, you have to watch yourself and, if possible, do what fills, not what depletes. Well, so that at least sometimes these most happy minutes are hours. Psychologists also advise everyone to have something filling, for example, a hobby, a favorite job, an occupation for self-realization.

Sudden Insights

And also the states of happiness can alternate withsudden second insights when an understanding of something comes (for example, yourself), insight. Although it happens without enlightenment, it’s just that some kindness comes and suddenly becomes nice and comfortable, but the most important thing is clear. It is clear that you are going where necessary, that is, something resembling enlightenment, but not quite. I love these moments, they come in the most ordinary places, but you always need something to activate this parish. Sometimes it is wind, sometimes it smells, there can be music or even sensations on fingertips from touching some surface. Wikipedia says these are memories.

I remember in China in a rehabilitation center wasthe corridor that led from our building to the medical. The usual one, which is a street path with a roof over it. Only this corridor was magical; it was blown with a special wind. Every time I took Egor to classes, somewhere in the middle a wave of warm air rolled in and activated the moment. It is literally seconds, but such as in the Matrix, when everything stops, and you look at everything from the outside. It’s quite difficult to describe feelings inside; only one word fits under them with a stretch - harmony. Here, and some joy that now is summer, and pleasant nostalgia for all sorts of Thailand, and a sense of the closeness of nature, and the very understanding that everything is as it should be. No, it's hard to describe, clumsily it turns out.

I also sometimes activate in the car ...You drive yourself around Moscow, for example, you take Yegor to the doctor, and bam, insight for a couple of seconds, although nothing at all foreshadowed and in my head the usual burden of problems. Of course, taxiing itself has a different philosophical thoughts and reflections, but here is another. Only very quickly leaves. You try to hold it up, cling to the sensation, “chew” it, but it still flows like water through your fingers, leaving behind only a certain aftertaste or memory from the sensation, which is also very quickly forgotten.

Golden cage or condition

The question arises, why do I actuallyI oppose. After all, you can do everything, and a career with a startup, and ride a bike in the evenings. That's right. But more important is the question, which is paramount? Didn't you think why the children are so carefree and happy, and how then in adulthood is it hard to rejoice in something ordinary, simple? Is there a substitution of concepts that, they say, first earn the dough, and then be happy? Then do your dreams, then take your time with your hobby, then look for yourself, then realize yourself. As if the reason for happiness, satisfaction with life, and indeed the whole meaning of life, it is in money and in making you a majority.

States of happiness and insights VS golden cage

Maybe everything should be the other way around? First, you fill life with deeds to which the soul lies, and then you think how, while remaining on the same path (that is, not changing yourself), do everything else: make money, start a family, and so on.

Honestly, I don't know the answers to all thesequestions, so, thought out loud. I noticed that so far in my life there was too much of what “should” and “accepted” (should work in the office and earn money without any difference, live in Moscow and have 2 days off on strictly certain days, eat meat and dream of a new apartment / car), then it all looked like a golden cage. It seems all is well, full, shod, I made repairs in the apartment, I bought a car on credit, live and rejoice. The path is trodden by millions of you, life is painted to the end, there is nothing to worry about, stability! But no, some kind of surrogate life that takes power. At the weekend, I remember, there was no moral strength to force myself to ride the same bike, for the holidays there was no strength to plan a little trip and it was easier to stay at home by the TV. Lost the spark and ardor of life. Rare moments of happiness (that is, constant not satisfaction) and the lack of insights, understandings. Notice, I didn’t know anything about alternatives then, that is, I couldn’t set myself up beforehand, I just watched from the outside and was surprised that I wasn’t like that.

P.S. True, there are a lot of reverse examples ... But perhaps among my readers there is someone who understands what I am talking about and is familiar with this situation. It would be interesting to know your experience, how you combined hobbies and work, whether or not they sagged under the circumstances and the majority opinion, whether you were looking for your way and walking along it without retreating in spite of everything.

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