Vegetarian and alcohol-free wedding - budget and no violence
In order to get married, you need to save up for a wedding for a whole year or borrow money from friends. You also need to take into account a million little things and prepare for it in almost six months: choose a hall and a stupid white dress, make a list of food and look for a limousine rental, think about a script and who to hire as a toastmaster and a photographer. That is, in order to spend the most important moment in your life, you first need to have a bunch of problems and get nervous, and in the end get exactly the same holiday as everyone else. Deep in my heart (and not in depth too) I always understood how waste of time and money, from which only the drunken antics of the guests would remain in my memory, and not the magical feeling from the birth of a new family, and the feeling of embarrassment that this a significant day passed in a completely unnatural environment for me. Therefore, I am very happy with those young (we ourselves did not succeed) who organize their wedding in a different way than «it is supposed», ranging from not celebrating it at all, and ending with non-alcoholic or cycling events.
Yes, of course, someone thinks completely differently. But I've been getting bored for quite some time on holidays, where food and drink are the mainstay. And even attempts to somehow bring people together through competitions do not correct the situation. And on the wedding day, in general, you want something special, but behind the tinsel and decorations in the form of a limousine, a banquet and a whole festive program, the possibility of realizing the fact that people become husband and wife is lost. No matter how much I asked the newlyweds about the feelings before / during / after, everyone answers - they say, nothing special. Ideally, it should be different! At least, I really wanted this at our wedding, and I think that Daria and I, despite all the distractions, managed to abstract and feel this moment.
Vegetarian and non-alcoholic wedding
I want to tell you how a month ago we attended the wedding of our friends, Denis and Nastya. Finally, I ended up at a wedding that was organized more or less like what I once wanted. And as a joke, my groom and I called her - a wedding without violence, without violence against guests. And this manifested itself in the fact that there was no need to wear a costume that I hated with a noose around my neck (which, by the way, I no longer have), no need to listen to the vague and boring speeches of toastmaster, participate voluntarily-compulsorily in contests and feel not all day long at ease, from the fact that most of the people do not know and they are all with completely different interests, that there is not even anything to talk about.
The best thing that you can think of on this day is a meeting of friends, a comfortable and homely atmosphere, the opportunity to talk with the bride and groom at any time (this is really not enough, as a rule). Usually such days are arranged after the official event, in a small company of friends. So, it seems to me, you can skip the banquet, and immediately go on to friendly gatherings, which actually happened - the young people signed quietly in the registry office and sailed to the dacha, where the next day we all met together.
Handmade invitation with personalized verse in our honor
The groom sang a serenade so that his betrothed would come out to him, then there was a mountain feast and a lot of interesting conversations, a small evening concert with the participation of the groom (he is also the lead singer of the Seredina group) and launching sky lanterns in the night. Someone then stayed overnight in a tent, someone in the house, and we left home. The relaxed atmosphere and sunny day contributed to the celebration. And the best part is that the wedding was non-alcoholic and vegetarian. Of course, not all were vegetarians, but one day can be tolerated without a chop and alcohol, there were no disgruntled exclamations. I think this is very correct, if the newlyweds make such a wedding as they want, on this day they can afford it.
Festive table and each apple
Some decorations in the theme
If the apples do not grow, they can be hung from the ropes.
Orange flower beds
Check-in at the dacha association is marked so that guests do not slip by
Guest cars
We set the table together
Despite the wedding, Yegor attracts everyone's attention
His first acquaintance with weed
Wonderful swing bench
Happy bride peeking out of the window
And the equally happy groom sings her a serenade
Friends explain what needs to be done at one time or another.
Friends explain what needs to be done at one time or another.
Long-awaited meeting
Young and small photo session
Not without recognizing the bride by her hand
Gifts are given periodically
Everyone with children was exiled to this table :)
My constantly full plate
Everyone is sitting, talking
Sometimes children fly by
We play darts
The game is addictive ...
Custom attire, but all beauties
And there are solid beds around
Nearby river channel
You don't really need to drink to have fun, just take a swim
Young with close friends
Throwing a bouquet
The guests explained that you need to remove the garter with your teeth, but he believed
Listening to great music
The whole band is assembled
In the evening, lights were on everywhere
Some heavenly lanterns for good luck
Some heavenly lanterns for good luck
One must definitely run together
Evening gatherings with cake
Almost raw-food variety, solid fruits and sour cream
I cannot but mention the fact that the whole wedding cost the guys 40 thousand rubles. Very budgetary, and there are much more positive emotions than in a traditional banquet. It's better to spend the rest of the money on the trip, which they actually did, though before the wedding :) Of course, they had to do a lot on their own, and friends and parents rendered significant help. But on the other hand, if you perceive preparation as a fun joint pastime, then it is akin to leisure, which also unites.
Our family is complete. Photo by Nadezhda Sedova.
P.S. In any case, happy for everyone who is married and married, love each other, this is no less important than the wedding itself, whatever it may be.