Recently, a friend of mine asked me a very interesting question, how does travel affect relationships, whether they change. Honestly, I never thought about it in this aspect, but then I analyzed it, and instead of an answer, a post was born in a PM.
Agree, it is very important what the relationship was initially, how well people knew each other, how close they were, what they were striving for.
The content of the article
- one The first changes - even before the trip
- 2 Common business or travel planning
- 3 Directly on the journey
The first changes - even before the trip
It seems to me that it is not entirely correct to speak only about travel, because relationships can begin to change even when people spend with each other not the usual 2-3 hours a day, seeing each other only in the evenings, but all 24 hours a day. One day of such a family lived together is equal to almost a week of life of an ordinary couple..
This can happen if both became freelancers, started doing a joint project, etc..
A whole circle of mutual lapping may begin, there may be more quarrels, expectations from each other and claims, fatigue from each other.
If this period of adjustment is properly lived, trying to compromise more often and look for solutions that suit both, then the end result is an even more cohesive and friendly family, people become even closer to each other, get to know each other even better and can fully enjoy each other's company. And this is always for the best!
Common business or travel planning
If a trip is expected to be long, difficult and non-standard, then it requires some preparation, and if both are involved in this process, then this also has a very positive effect on their relationship. In general, any common cause greatly contributes to this.!
Although at this stage, scores may arise, who did what how much, but usually such issues are quickly and amicably resolved..
A common cause most often appears among those who already have the same interests and aspirations in life. And here - new common topics for conversation are born, there is always something to discuss and what to share. When both people are involved in the same process, they feel much more oneness with each other, and this is so important for relationships when people do not live two parallel lives, but a single, common!
Directly on the journey
This is the most interesting thing. Travel is different, and the more difficult it is, the more test and catalyst it is for a couple. For example, a tourist trip, where it is hard both physically and sometimes even mentally.
In difficult conditions, all sorts of cockroaches crawl out and well hidden stupid traits of a person appear. It is true that it can be difficult for those who do not know each other very well or are not ready for surprises in each other. He lived and lived with one person, white and fluffy, and then suddenly he takes and manifests himself as not fluffy at all, but prickly.
Well, here it is your business, to accept any new emerging sides of each other and help each other develop in a positive direction, or make any other decision. Of course, it is also important that a person can realize that cockroaches have crawled out of him and that something needs to be done about it, so that he himself strives to change for the better..
There is an opportunity to see the true face of a companion, so to speak, and play an important role in his life, helping him cope with his not entirely positive sides of character. If both in a couple realize that both will have to work hard to achieve joint happiness, then they enthusiastically undertake to help each other get rid of shortcomings.
If people want to get a ready-made prince on a white horse, a finished product, then their relationship may not stand the test of a campaign in difficult conditions. But maybe it’s for the best, so it’s just wrong or wrong.
Again, the difficulties experienced together bring people together very much. And, if during the hike positive, but hitherto unknown traits are revealed, then this is absolutely wonderful..
When traveling to another country, everything is a little simpler, although the model is the same. This, and the general business with the distribution of responsibilities (for example, one is planning a route and looking for a road, and the other is making a plan of what to see), but also general emotions, general impressions. And also a whole arsenal of different life situations where a person can manifest himself in an unusual way for you, show unexpected facets of his character, and thereby either attract you even more, or, conversely, frighten you. As they say, a friend is known in trouble, and a companion in difficulties and various situations.!
The conclusion I can draw is that if the relationship before travel was fragile or based on not entirely correct foundations, then most likely a camping trip or a long trip will be a test for them, which they will not stand. And for those relationships that are based on the right principles, a long, even difficult journey will be an excellent environment for further improvement and, so to speak, strengthening the union..